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Monday, 16 November 2009

Doing a lot of thinking today and I've come to a conclusion. Life is good :) So good that it's worth taking moments to take in the good, evaluate the bad and work to make it better, and to take the extra effort to let things roll off your back.
Had a rough day Friday. All the positive thinking in the world couldn't have counter acted it. But I bounced back Saturday and had a productive Sunday. As I go home tonight to my home that is filled with love (even from the cats... which is hard to do sometimes since one decided to make my favorite down comforter his new litter box, ah! had to trash it), I will be thankful for what I have and what lies in front of me. With all the bad things that do and can happen in our lives, it's so important to remember that you can overcome it. You are stronger than you realize. No one and no thing is worth ending life short over.
Another food for thought (well for me):
It's no secret I've been struggling with my faith for years now. I'm not sure that will ever change. Regardless, what the bible teaches is how to be a good person. I may not know where I stand with God but I do know I believe in the teachings of the bible. Maybe instead of fighting internally with my faith, I should just start making my way back to those teachings.

Wednesday, 11 November 2009

And someone broke into moms car last night and stole her purse which included all credit card and bank information as well as her phone. Luckily Verizon Wireless has been pretty understanding so far (we'll see after we go tonight to get her a new phone) as well as most of her credit cards (Citi Corp, you still suck on customer service).
She's had a rough week. Sending love her way.

Tuesday, 10 November 2009

In case you didn't know, today is the Marine's birthday. This year will be their 234th birthday. All around the country, and even overseas, Marines will be celebrating with the Marine Corp Ball this weekend. Happy Birthday Marines!
Tomorrow is Veterans Day.
Especially in light of the shootings at Fort Hood, please thank the service men and women you come across. They really do appreciate it.

Monday, 09 November 2009

This weekend was really busy but really good (with the exception of some news I got. More on that in a moment).
Saturday I went to a craft show with mom, ran home so someone could drop off a computer that Matt is going to fix, then ran back out to watch the game with the boys. We then ran back up towards home to hang out with some friends.
Sunday, breakfast with a different group of friends and then we ran by a 2nd hand shop to see if a painting that we liked was still there. The way this place works is that they have multiple prices for each item. The longer the item is there the more the price drops. This weekend was the last price drop for the painting...and it was still there! It's a Charles Bunnell. So excited!
After we ran to Lowe's to pick up some things and saw a stove that was originally $2,400 marked down to $600. We called Matt's mom, who had been looking for a new stove, and she ran over to pick it up. Nothing wrong with it and it had never been used. Just a mistake on ordering by the manager in that department. We bought a bunch of Christmas lights (yea!!) and some other needed items such as lawn bags.
Ran home, worked on the yard for about an 1 1/2, then went in to get ready. We had been invited to a private opening party for a new restaurant. Sooo good! We still wanted to hang out (same group as breakfast) so we went to a hot dog place downtown and hung out for a couple hours. All that and we were still home by 8:30pm!
Busy busy weekend.
So on to the sad news. I got a call Saturday night that a class member of ours had committed suicide Friday night. I later found out that he had a relationship end and wasn't dealing really well. They had put him on some meds to help but it was giving him tunnel vision. He ended up shooting himself behind his parents home. His dad found him.
I've been through a breakup. I know how much it hurts and I even remember thinking "I get why someone would consider suicide". It felt like the pain would never go away. But it did. I never once considered taking my own life but I got a glimpse into that bottom of the soul pain. I get it. But I knew things would get better even though it didn't feel like it. This guy was smart. In high school he was in all the AP classes, soccer team, NHS, and he really seemed like the type that would make it in whatever career he chose. Just a sad situation. I wish I could go back in time and talk to him.
Viewing tonight. May or may not go. I didn't really know him but I respected him.
Puts things into perspective. Tell your friends you love them. Let them know you are there for them. There is nothing in this world worth taking your own life over. I lost my dad at a young age and I went through a breakup with someone I thought I was meant to marry. Different pains but both equally hard. But life is too good to end it early. Although I miss my dad, I'm ok without him. Although I went through all that pain but in the end, my life is so much better.

Thursday, 05 November 2009

(being a little more detailed than I need to be more so for my self.)
At 12:37pm today I had called my mom to ask her a question. She was on her way home from lunch so we chatted until she got home. When she opened the door she said the dog had gotten sick all over the floor and it was all over the house. I let her go so she could take care of it.
Angel was born February 20, 1997. We had lost our corgi, Buddy, in December 1996 to liver failure. He was there for us when my dad died so his death hit us pretty hard. Buddy was a 4-H dog so we kept in touch with the 4-H group and went to the weekly trainings. We hadn't even thought about getting a new dog when, sometime in April 1997, a family from 4-H said their dog had a litter of puppies who were just old enough to be weaned from their mom. They were small, brown, fluffy and incredibly cute. We took one home on a "trial" basis but Angel was named before we even got home that night. Her mom was a Chocolate Lab mix (we think Irish Setter) and dad was a full bred Golden Retriever. Can you say stubborn?
She was incredibly hard to train but only because she loved to play. She rarely growled and only barked because she wanted attention. When she was old enough I started her in 4-H and kept training her until I was too old to participate. She helped me win a lot of ribbons and provided great companionship.When I went away to college she stayed with mom and has been her best buddy since. It made me feel better that mom wasn't home alone since I was out of the house. She has been healthy most of her life but definitely had some extra weight on her since I was no longer home to help her exercise.
About a year ago Angel stopped eating like she normally does and started limping. Mom took her to the vet and discovered that she had somehow torn a ligament in her back leg. In addition, the vet tested her and found out she was diabetic and that she had kidney stones. Because of the diabetes and her age the vet was hesitant to operate. It seemed to happen so slowly but looking back it was less than a year. Suddenly mom was buying expensive food, giving the dog shots, and carefully arranging her food so that Angel would eat. It was not only taking a toll on mom emotionally but financially as well.
Flash forward to today. Mom called again at 1:26pm to let me know she took the dog to the vet. She called back at 2:17pm to say she had the vet put Angel down. Her kidneys were failing.
I know this was for the best. She was a good dog but she was in pain. Still doesn't make it any easier.
At the same time this was all going on we found out that there was a murder-suicide on the east side today. A man shot his wife and 9 year old child and then turned the gun on himself.
Please take a moment today to think of all the good things in your life. Tell your friends and family you love them. Hug your pet. Stop and look around you. Life is so precious and so wonderful. People and even animals come into our lives and make a lasting impression and learning experience. Be grateful for that.
I still plan on going forward with my New Years resolution. I am going to take my time to mourn the loss of a loved pet but I know this is life. I know good things have come from her being in my life. I am not going to be sad but rather grateful for the imprint she left on this earth.